Common responses among toddlers and preschoolers who experience a flood

How you and other close family and friends support your child during and after a flood makes a difference. Your child’s response to the flood will be significantly influenced by their age and where they’re at in their development, as well as any previous experiences of disaster (both direct and indirect) and their overall sense of safety. They will need time, nurturing, patience and a stable routine to recover and thrive.

After the initial sadness and distress of living through a major flood event, most children will begin to recover over time. Some children may even feel more confident or experience other positive changes. However, your child will still need your continued reassurance, stability and support. For practical tips on how to help your child to cope following a flood, please check out our advice for the weeks following the flood and later in the recovery phase.

Common responses among toddlers and preschoolers who experience a flood

Despite your care and support, your child may still experience difficulties following the flood. If you have a toddler or preschooler, you might notice these common responses to a flood:

• Increased tension or an inability to relax or calm down.
• Increased sensitivity to small noises or movements.
• Loss of skills they recently developed, like feeding themselves or using the toilet.
• Increased fussiness and clinginess. This can be a sign of a deeper fear of separation and is particularly common among children who were separated from their parents during the flood.
• Crying all the time or with increased intensity.
• Avoiding new things or new places.
• Avoiding or getting frightened by reminders of the event.
• A visible lack of interest or energy; seeming limp.
• Reduced interest in things or a ‘spaced out’ stare.
• Resistance to directions or requests.
• Experiencing colds, headaches or tummy aches more often.
• Reliving the trauma by drawing the event, playing ‘disaster’, or repeatedly asking questions or talking about the flood.
• Blaming themselves and feeling guilty about the flood or making up stories about ‘why’ it happened.
• Sleep problems – for example, being afraid to go to sleep, needing a nightlight or having nightmares.

It’s important to remain curious in the weeks, months and even years ahead. Check in regularly with your child about how they’re feeling and keep an eye out for changes in their behaviour. Your child may not have the words to describe their feelings, so their behaviour can be your best insight into what’s going on for them.

Signs your toddler or preschooler may need additional support

It’s common for some children to seem fine at first, but then become distressed at a later point. Some children might experience distress even if they did not experience the event personally.

Your child may need some extra support if they’re having difficulties which:

• persist for more than a month or worsen over time
• represent a change from their normal behaviour
• are more intense or frequent compared to children of the same age
• cause their behaviours to disrupt their classroom/others on a regular basis
• prevent them from engaging in age-appropriate tasks
• occur in multiple contexts (for example, both at school and at home)
• are making you feel distressed and concerned about your family’s wellbeing.

Who can help?

Your general practitioner (GP) is the best place to start – they can provide information, resources and advice on which type of professional support can best help your child’s recovery. Learn more about the role of a GP in this video.

Chances are you’re also dealing with your own feelings of grief, anger, exhaustion and loss following the flood. It can be tough to juggle your own responses and recovery needs with your responsibilities/roles as a parent, partner and community member. But it’s important to remember that you can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking care of your own wellbeing (‘filling your cup’) is key to your child’s mental health and recovery.

If you need support, please reach out to a trusted friend, family member, GP or other health professional. You can also find more information and tips for taking care of yourself during this challenging time in our fact sheet, Looking after your wellbeing following a flood.

Useful links for parents of toddlers/preschoolers who experience a flood

The importance of story and play for young children following a natural disaster video (Emerging Minds)

Recovering together after a natural disaster – flood (Queensland Centre for Perinatal and Infant Mental Health)

Birdie’s Tree offers a range of wonderful resources, in multiple languages, for toddlers and preschoolers who’ve experienced a traumatic event. Developed by the Queensland Centre for Perinatal and Infant Mental Health, it features games, information and an online storybook specifically for children who’ve been through a flood.

This resource contains content adapted from resources originally co-developed by Emerging Minds and the Australian Child and Adolescent Trauma, Loss and Grief Network (ACATLGN) / Australian National University (ANU) as part of the Community Trauma Toolkit.